I Do Not Love You

image source “Sonnet XVII” I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz, or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off. I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul. I love you as the plant that never blooms but carries…

Maitri : Cultivating Unconditional Friendliness to Oneself

  From Pema Chödrön: MAITRI Cultivating Unconditional Friendliness to Oneself  “Maitri is translated in a lot of ways, maybe most commonly as love, but the way Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche translated it was unconditional friendliness and in particular unconditional friendliness to oneself.  So I teach about maitri a lot. In fact, sometimes I think it’s the only thing I teach. I also…

Impermanence

“The Buddha called impermanence one of the three distinguishing marks of our existence, an incontrovertible fact of life. But it’s something we seem to resist pretty strongly. We think that if only we did this or didn’t do that, somehow we could achieve a secure, dependable, controllable life. How disappointed we are when things don’t…

My Gift To You

My gift to you will be an abyss, she said,but it will be so subtle you’ll perceive itonly after many years have passedand you are far from Mexico and me.You’ll find it when you need it most,and that won’t bethe happy ending, but it will be an instant of emptiness and joy. And maybe then…

Oh, the letting go

“It takes some training to equate complete letting go with comfort. But in fact, ‘nothing to hold onto’ is the root of happiness. There’s a sense of freedom when we accept that we are not in control.”  ~ Pema Chödrön  image source I don’t let go, I hold on. I hold on tightly. I hold on…

Oh Change, how you suck sometimes

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.  – Anatole France Have a relentless belief that things will work out. Have the courage to fall from the highest cliff and let go…